Relationships

Benching: Keeping the Other on Hold

In the new digital dictionary, we are learning to decode, “to bench” means keeping someone on the sidelines, like a player who is sent neither off the field nor fully into the game, but kept warmed up, available, and waiting. Benching is not the radical severing of connection seen in ghosting, nor the deliberate freezing of icing. It belongs ...

Icing: When Love Goes into Freeze Mode

The Anglicism icing, literally “putting on ice,” is not just a lexical novelty born of online platforms. It can also be understood as a technique of connection. It is neither a breakup nor a clear absence, but a controlled freezing. The icer keeps the other in reserve, present yet unavailable. The act consists of responding sporadically, ...